Are phrases such as “LoVe YoUrSeLf” and “YoU’rE pErFeCt” actually helping anyone?
Phrases like this have become super popular over the last few years, and while I understand they are intended to spread positivity and make people feel good, I can’t help but think they are slightly redundant.
Quite frankly, it’s really hard to love yourself 24/7. Some mornings you’re going to wake up and feel like a big steaming turd, fresh out of a horse’s arse, and reading self-love quotes and telling yourself you’re perfect doesn’t quite cut it.
At the end of the day they are just words.
Taking action is where the magic really happens.
That’s why I am a big advocate of self-care.
Self-care is about having tools handy in your metaphorical tool belt, which you can whip out and use when you have your big turd days. They are methods that keep you going on the hard days and help you to come out the other side feeling recharged.
Self-care practice is exactly what it says on the tin, a practice. You will need to develop your craftsmanship with said tools over time.
Common self-care practices can include:
- Morning rituals (start your day right)
- Movement you enjoy (literally anything)
- Meditation (or just some peace and quiet)
- Nourishing foods (foods that leave you feeling fuelled)
- Spending time with friends and family (positive energy)
- Pampering yourself (bath with candles and face mask)
- Having a day off (doing sweet FA)
This is not an exhaustive list, and self-care will be different for everyone, but having these tools handy can hugely benefit your overall wellness.
The area of self-care is a topic being studied more and more, and the benefits of these practices are thought to have a profound impact on a person’s life.
“There is also evidence and growing awareness among healthcare professionals that supporting and empowering persons with chronic conditions and their care partners and helping them to perform self-care can improve patient well-being, decrease morbidity and mortality, and reduce healthcare costs (Tol et al., 2015).”
The point of this article is not to completely disregard the whole “love yourself” movement, but more about emphasising the actions that are necessary to achieve self-love in a practical way.
We’ve Got This!